Hey guys, I've missed you! I have so many ideas down for posts, some of them even jotted down. They just need typed up! To do that, I have to have time! Soccer season is here and with two little ones it takes a bit of time from practices to getting ready for games and getting all that dirt off of them it takes a lot. Its almost over. Then hopefully I can get some of the posts I have had planned up.
Since we are talking about soccer though, and I have a few minutes, there is something on my mind. I try to be pretty nice at these games. At this age they don't even actually keep score (though most of us do in our heads). T's first season the coach said, "the main goals at this age are to get them going the right direction and to teach them not to touch the ball with their hands." In my experience they achieve that and much more. Well, we coached last season so I have a little experience under my belt as a coach as well. Yes, its just a little, but I did go to the coaches meeting so I know what they tell them. One of the main things is to
Rotate Your Players During Games. There are 7-8 kids on a team if they are all there, and only 5 can be on the field at a time. They are supposed to sub every 2-3 minutes. It seemed often at first, but like I said, we have done it so I know what its like. Its pretty doable. And, if its not every 2-3 minutes, then hey every 4-5 or something. The point is it should be done. All of the kids deserve equal time to play (Of course it won't be exactly equal, noone expects that, but we do expect each child to sit out a little bit, even our own. It gives them all time to try and time to learn.)
Here is what has been upsetting me. There is one player on M's team that doesn't get sat out. The coach says he asks them who wants to sit out and they volunteer. Newsflash, my kids talk to me. Oh and hey, I'm right there hearing what goes on sometimes as well. I know my kid does not ask to sit out that often. Well, in the coaches meeting one of the things said was that coaching is volunteer so if a parent has a problem with the way you coach, tell them they can do it next season. Knowing that, I tried not to push buttons. We might have tried to coach this season, but its not coed so the kids are on two different teams. We couldn't coach one kid's team and miss most of the other's games. So, when we found out they had a lot of coaches signed up, we weren't too worried about it. Back to the reason I was a little upset. They have played like 6 games. My daughter has sat out a couple times in each game. We are this far in and I haven't seen 1 of the players
ever sit out. My boyfriend said he thinks she did in the first game though. Well, I was fed up. He kept saying he was going to talk to the coaches, but never did. This last game M sat out some of each quarter. Yet again that player did not sit out
AT ALL. There are another couple that don't sit out much either, but they do usually get sit out some. I want to make it clear that I did not want to upset the little girl, but every kid needs to sit out. She is just a kid. It's not her fault and I understand that. I would definitely not want her feelings hurt. After this last game I was kind of fed up. M sat out a ton. It wasn't fair. So, I waited until the coach wasn't busy and I brought it up to him. Of course he said he asks them who wants to sit out. He even said she wanted to sit out
one of the times this game. So I said, "Well that is one time, but you sat her out during
EVERY quarter. And there are some girls that don't sit out at all." He tried to justify with that its hard out there, but I had told him in the beginning of the conversation that we had done it last season and I understand that it can be difficult
sometimes. But its not impossible and every kid needs to spend some time sitting out watching their teammates. I let him know that I would appreciate if he would try to rotate his players more often.
Do you think that's ok? Did I handle it alright? I felt bad for M always having to go out and I wanted to stand up for her. I was nervous though, because I didn't want to upset that little girl or anyone else on her team and I didn't want to piss off the coach. This post was not planned. I just typed as I went, so hopefully it reads alright too. Let me know what you think below! This Momma could use some feedback. What would you have done?
Miss you guys! Talk to you soon!
~ S